When things get tough....scream in the freezer!

Lately it seems I have been dealing with a lot of relationships that have been affected by hardships.  Husband-wife, young love, parent child, friends, sisters, brothers, oh the list can go on.  These relationships are being affected by choices they made and things that just happen.  

Some are affected by depression.  This you just can't explain.  Depression affects us slowly and sometimes it comes on in a second.  We can't always explain that.  And when those we love are affected we just want to scream and yell.  We want to be mad and sometimes we just don't know who to be mad at.

Some are affected by illness.  This just happens and we sometimes can't explain why it happens.  But it does.  And when those we love are affected we just want to scream and yell.  We want to be mad and sometimes we just don't know who to be mad at.

Some are affected by the choices they make.  They say mean words and hurt someone.  They make choices to take a relationship to a stage they are not ready for and don't understand how that changed things.  And when those choices affect those we love we get mad.  And we want to scream and yell.  And we become mad and don't always want to blame the right one.  

And this list could go on.  What do you do?  Pray and focus on God.  Ask for guidance and wisdom.  Things  may not get better, sometimes they may get worse before they get better.  And even worse things may happen.  And sometimes things just get better.

When I was in college and bad things happened we had a saying, "Scream in the freezer!"  No one can hear you.  It will not fix anything.  It will not take a relationship back to how it was.  It will not heal the sick.  Or make those depressed feel better.  But screaming just gives you the moment to refocus to help care for those you love!  

So who is screaming in the freezer?